Tuesday, April 10, 2012

The truth about fairytale- it doesn't exist.

Assalamualaikum.

As I am looking for the right words to describe what I feel right now, I am very sure that fairy tales don’t exist. My theory is that once you’re reached the so-called fairy tale moment, you must prepare yourself to eventually face the truths behind all those things, which are not as good as other people may see it. I know that fairy tales don’t exist in reality, but I tend to create one myself. Or maybe two. Well, maybe three? Those who understands this means that they have passed the moment and came to realize the reality. For those who has not, take this as another step in your life that you must face to make yourself more matured in manoeuvring daily life.


Take love for an example. When we were young, most of us tend to see love as having fun together: watch movies, hang out, go out for picnics, romantic dinner, but as time goes by, the way you see love will be slightly different. There will be some serious elements in the future that you need to consider, such as exchanging problems, meeting the family, buying a house, buying a car, considering whether the current work will be a burden to the marriage, and of course, being more serious about the relationship. True, these things are not easy, but insisting that it is difficult is another way of saying in your mind that ‘I am not ready!’ or ‘I am just scared to face the reality!’ Well, what is a life if you’re always staying in your comfort zone? Follow the flow of life, but in your mind, create your own fairy tale.


Another example was when I started writing my dear blog. I blogged since 2008 but at that time I kept it private. Only my close friends can read it. 2 years later, I finally decided to make a new blog which I made public. My intention at that time was to share my every day routine, what I usually do, my passion, etc. After a while, I realize that my blog serves a medium that can give useful information to readers. So I started to share things which are not only about my routine. Something new, I must say.


When I write, I tend to challenge myself to be better. Take language as example. I love Bahasa Melayu. My love towards my own language took me to levels I never dreamed I could achieve. I love pantun, puisi and cerpen. Even though my team did not make it to the national level, I won pemantun terbaik for 3 years in a row. The interesting thing is that in those 3 years, I’ve been to 3 different schools! Yeah I was a bit vulnerable during those days ;P. After a while, I said to myself that I need to challenge myself in English, so sometimes, I write in English. It was fine (although with a lot of grammatical errors here and there) because people don’t really bother to correct it. So I kept my so called positive fairy tale mood. But eventually, reality sinks in and people started saying that they don’t like the way I write in different languages. They started saying things like ‘Bahasa jiwa bangsa, kalau dah orang Melayu tulis Melayu je la’, ‘Kenape kene speaking-speaking ni, takde jati diri langsung’. Well, to be frank, how are we supposed to be a better person when we are scared of trying?

kalau manis si buah kuini,
akanku ambil bagai dituba,
kalau bahagia terukir disini,
takkan berhenti terus mencuba.
:)

goodnight people!

36 comments:

  1. x kisah lah...be urself...sume org accept u siapa pn kamu skrg...peduli je kata2 org...hnya kita & Allah s.w.t je tahu...promise...?

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  2. eh,kite same lah,pemantun negeri and love pantun so much. btw nice entry,seriously. =)

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    1. ehe.. thanks :) aww, pasni boleh la berpantun sesame. tak pasal ;p

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  3. Whatever it is,dgn blog ni ieqah dpt kenai fatin suhana yang cantik n omeyyy ni.. sukaa sangat..i wish i can meet you one day :)

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    1. hee.. ade rezeki kite berjumpe, Insya-Allah.. cepat Amin kan! :D

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  4. saya sangat setuju.... have a nice day...

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  5. kak faten , jadi dri sniri lagi dipandang tinggi. btw , k.faten stay kuantan dekat mane ?

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    1. betul2. sbb diri sendiri dah unik, tak perlu untuk kita jadi org lain :) kak tin tinggal kat indera mahkota. waniey org kuantan jugak?

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  6. hmmm..honestly la kan kak fatin,people will always trying to make you feel down but Allah is never..so,bila kita buat sesuatu kebaikan..tnya balik apa niat kita??untuk Allah or untuk manusia???...yeahh..i got it from my usrah n just wants to share it for you..apa sje kbaikan yg kita buat n dniatkan krana Allah,ianya dianggap ibadah dan dpt pahala..lgpun,klu kte kcwa,skurang2nya kita tahu,Allah ada dgn kita..tp,klu awl2 niat kita krana manusia,n hkikatnya kte xdpt apa yg kte hrapkan kita akan kcewa...that's so trueeee..so..be strong n optimist.!..hanya orang2 yang tidak matang dan tidak berpelajaran je yang akan buat pkra2 yg suka untuk jatuhkan orang..

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    1. thanks and alhamdulillah for the nice words :) agree with u khalifah

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  7. saya pon guna rojak language.tak bermakna sy takde smgat nasionalisme kan? doesn't matter laa apa others nak pikir pon, as long as apa yg kita share dpt beri manfaat kpd orang lain, it's okay. peace ^^V

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    1. sbb tu org cakap don't judge the book by it's cover, kan? :)

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  8. tulis lah dgn apa bahasa pun, kalau mesej yg FS nak share kan tu sampai, so itu dah memadai.:)

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  9. fairytale untuk semua Muslimah adalah hanya di Jannah. dont worry sis. FIGHTING!! :)

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    1. Insya-Allah.. Aminn untuk kita semua :)

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  10. fuh, lama tak pantun nih
    ehem.. testing testing

    apela nasib si ikan patin,
    buat gulai pun sedap juge,
    sy rase memang betul la apa yg dikongsi fatin,
    tp ape kate next entry fatin share resepi gulai tempoyak patin pulak ke?
    :)

    good morning fatin!

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    1. haha...
      bro lu tak takut ke kene hempok dengan batang penyapu oleh tuan rumah?
      haha, sorry gurau je

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    2. hishss.. aku tau bro, fatin lembut hatinya.
      tak mungkin ianya akan berlaku.. hehe.. konfiden ni! :D

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  11. u don't have to worry bout other people fatin and certainly u don't live to entertain those kind of people..cause u have ur own tale to write..just do whatever u believe and prefers to..people will always be like that, either supports u or criticizes u for that..so dont worry bout them..chin up, stay cool..okey? =]

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  12. kita memang takkan dapat puaskan hati semua orang....

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  13. whoaa. hebat lah kak fatin.. english hebak, bm hebak . saya pulak yg teruja ! ehee. ajar mcm mana nk brpantun boleh? ;D

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  14. go kak fatin!! you awesome..ignore the person who dosent know what awesome means!

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  15. realiti xseindah fairytale..follow u here..

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  16. you wrote I write, eh silap
    you wrote I read.

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  17. "how are we supposed to be a better person when we are scared of trying?" ME SO AGREE WITH THIS :')

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  18. Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi wabarakatuh my dear ukhti.

    masha Allah, i couldn't agree more. the only way to improve ourselves would be to step outside the box, try new things everyday, have adventures. people can say whatever they want, we aren't able to please everyone, but the only one that is compulsory for us to please is our Creator.

    Hasbunallah wa ni'mal wakiil. Allah Alone is Sufficient for us, and He is the Best Disposer of affairs for us. Allah does not look at what we are from the outside, but rather our intentions instead.

    intentions.niat.hadis 1 :)

    never stop trying.people might give you perplexed stares, or agitation, or maybe heebie-jeebies of all sorts. remember,we're just mere human beings.

    everyone is special in his or her own way insha Allah.

    trying to communicate in English is not a crime. it is,AFTER ALL, still a language that people could understand perfectly. and learning new languages is very interesting(trust me i know what i'm saying).

    i am currently learning a couple of new languages as well, and i'm a proud Malay,born and raised in Malaysia.

    so don't give up, and don't let peoples' words get into your head. you should know what's best for yourself, biiznillah. my du'as with you always <3

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  19. So true.About the love matters and all,it's just true :) pasal Bi tu pun betul..kdg2 nk ckp english sikit je org dah complain,pandai english skt je dah kena kitai.huhu mentaliti mereka yg ckp kita x sygkn national language tu still di takuk lama. Memang kena pekakkan telinga dan kuatkan hati!! :-)

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  20. i love your writting a lot sis Fatin :)

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  21. fatin, meh layan lagu best hari sabtu ni

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2izpbwSCE-Q&feature=related

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  22. Wahhh, akak pun masuk pantun ?
    Samalah !
    Rabu ni kita lawan, wakil sekolah.
    Alhamdulillah, tahun lepas berjaya jadi pemantun terbaik sekolah :)

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  23. fairytales? is it about u & him? don't be sad..every girls dream of perfect life, perfect guy n etc..yes,we might living the dream..be thankful to Allah if the fairytales doesn't lasts or exist..He knows what's the best for us :)

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  24. It's not about me n a guy.. It's about things that i've observed for quite some time.. About general, life, dreams, etc. But yeah, He knows The best :)

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  25. Hai, ni 1st time kita explore blog Fatin.
    kita suka apa yg Fatin tulis even in English tapi apa yang fatin tulis mudah faham n paling penting menarik. =)

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